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How High School English Saved My Marriage

My teachers were a special breed. Some inspired hard work, like Mrs. Beaver in 1st grade. She was the one who always reminded me, “If you put your mind to it, you can do it, do it, do it.” Some were nurturing, like Mrs. Sealy in 4th grade. She was the one who always baked a birthday cake for each student…

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My Marriage Counseling Failed … Now What?!

Things haven’t been going well for a while. It was probably five years ago, somewhere after the first child was born, that you and your spouse unintentionally began pursuing different goals. As a result of feeling deprioritized and neglected, one of you became focused on your career. The other folded the responsibility of “primary caregiver” to the baby into the…

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A Peek Inside My Brain: 9 Steps to Effective Conflict Resolution

Several years ago during a couples’ counseling session, a client asked me how my wife and I went about resolving our conflicts. What were the steps we took to ensure a positive outcome? Honestly, the question shocked me a little. I hadn’t really thought about it before. Our pattern of conflict resolution was,

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13 Ways To Guarantee Your Spouse Doesn’t Give a Crap About the Marriage

It was a beautiful day when you got married. The sun shone as bright as your future and hope seemed to pour from every smiling face that congratulated you. And not because of the open bar. Your friends and family were genuinely happy for you. You were genuinely happy for you. But somewhere along the way that raging bonfire of passion…

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